Posted by: revk | 9 April, 2008

Ask Away

Last week I got speaking to someone I didn’t know about things in general eventually, as always seems to be the case the subject turned to church and why I do what I do, now those questions are ones that I am quite used, however the conversation ended with a question which was new to me and which has over the past week been asked twice more, by two other people.  What is the question I hear you cry?  Well before I tell you that just a little extra information.

All three of these people have no personal knowledge of church, have never been except for the occasional wedding or baptism, none of them have attended a church funeral and their parents never went to church either.  Why the background information?  Well the question I was asked was if it was in it’s various forms - Can I just turn up at church on Sunday?  Is it okay for me to go to church? and the most telling; Do I need to ask the priest first before I can go to a Sunday service?

I am sure these people are not alone, and there are many more who have only ever attended church when invited to a wedding or baptism, and therefore are unclear about if that goes for regular worship too.  So why not invite someone to church this weekend, you never know it might be just what they were waiting for?

Responses

Our notices about services, which go out to everyone in the village, always include the words ‘eveyone welcome’, but a lot of people say that they feel excluded by the communion service having never been confirmed.

I think those of us who attend churches and have done for most, if not all of our lives, think and see the this differently to those who have never attended on a regular basis. We who attend churches tend to see the statement ‘Everyone Welcome’ as part of an invitation to come along; however it isn’t actually an invite to come along, rather a statement that anyone who comes along will be made welcome. What I have discovered over the past week is that there are people out there, who on some level or other need, or think they need, an invitation to come to a service. All three of these people, none of which actually stay in EK sadly, know that they would be welcomed by me if they came along to St Mark’s, however they each thought that before getting to that point they needed to be invited.
Like it or not we are now living in a society were a third generation are growing up without any direct understanding or knowledge of what church is, means and how it functions - apart from bad press and sitcoms. That isn’t news to me what is news is that these encounters have shown me is that we need to stop being passive and start being more pro-active in our welcome, because at the moment the message of welcome is missing the mark.

I must admit that I have never come across your second point, which could be because in the Scottish Episcopal Church it isn’t that big an issue as confirmation isn’t the doorway into receiving communion.

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